Join Our Wedding Community Today!
Click Here
Dec. 28, 2020

The "F" Word & The "A" Team


In this episode, co-hosts Kristina, Mike & Sharon discuss using "friendors" vs. vendors for your wedding.

Apple Podcasts podcast player badge
Spotify podcast player badge
Google Podcasts podcast player badge
Overcast podcast player badge
Castro podcast player badge
Stitcher podcast player badge
iHeartRadio podcast player badge
PocketCasts podcast player badge
Castbox podcast player badge
Pandora podcast player badge
Podcast Addict podcast player badge
RSS Feed podcast player badge

When it comes to weddings; THERE ARE NO DO-OVERS!

Should you use the "F" word when planning your wedding?

People don’t know what they don’t know. Let the professionals do their JOB!

Friendors vs. Vendors

Skip the friendors and use the vendors so you can grease up your shoes and slide into your wedding week with no worries.

Skip the "friendors." Use expert vendors.

In this episode, co-hosts Kristina, Mike & Sharon discuss using "friendors" vs. vendors for your wedding.

In this episode you will:

  • FIND OUTIf you should use the “F” word when planning your wedding.
  • UNDERSTANDthat friendships & family relationships are more important than saving money.
  • DISCOVERthat a great planner will bring a great wedding team! That’s their job!

Let us get you down the aisle and to the altar with all your friendships and family relationships intact!

Share with us your plans. Are you using friendors, wedding professionals or a mix? Tag us on Facebook or Instagram @theringtheblingandallthethings

Connect with the hosts:

Kristina Stubblefield
social media @kristinastubblefield_ or @soinmediagroup

Sharon Rumsey, A Perfect Plan Events
www.aperfectplanevents.comsocial media @aperfectplankentuckiana

Michael Gaddie, Lloyd’s Florist  social media @lloydsflorist


Sharon Rumsey  0:00  
Guys, didn't your mama ever teach you not to use the F word? We all know it's wrong. Find out why that applies. 1000% when we're talking about planning a wedding,

Kristina Stubblefield  0:10  
you're gonna understand that friendships and family relationships are more important than saving money.

Michael Gaddie  0:16  
And when it comes to weddings, there are no do overs.

Kristina Stubblefield  0:20  
Stay tuned as we dive in to the F word and the A Team You got engaged. Now what? Happy? Yes, joyful time, of course, stressed and overwhelmed. 100%. Don't worry, you're in the right place. Welcome to the ring, the bling, and all the things where we will get you from down on one knee to down the aisle. We'll cover all things from yes to I do's and all that happens in between. Hi, I'm Kristina Stubblefield, one of your hosts, along with my two good friends, Michael Gaddie. And Sharon Rumsey. With over 50 years of wedding experience between us. We have seen it, heard it, done it and found a way around it. So buckle up and enjoy the journey. Now, let's get started with this episode.

Now, Mike, you made a really good point when we talk about the F word. But I'm going to let Sharon tell our audience Sharon, what exactly are we talking about?

Sharon Rumsey  1:35  
Well, in my world, I would much rather hear the traditional F word than to hear the wedding F word which is friender.

Kristina Stubblefield  1:44  
Give it to 'em Sharon.

Sharon Rumsey  1:47  
So a friend or is defined as when you hire a or not hire when you solicit a family member or friend to take the place of a wedding professional to participate in your wedding.

Kristina Stubblefield  2:03  
And Mike, you I gotta chime you in here because you made a really good point about this. You want to share with them?

Michael Gaddie  2:09  
Well, just because you're hiring your friend to do something and you think you're going to save money. Really you don't. I mean, usually you lose a friend over it.

Kristina Stubblefield  2:21  
And that's a really valid point. And Sharon, what I like to talk about when this topic came up is what we were going to discuss with our audience and be our first episode was there's something really important. There's no do overs with your wedding. That's it. There's no do overs. Yeah,

Sharon Rumsey  2:41  
it's definitely not a day that you want to gamble. It's definitely not a day for someone who's doing something for the very first time. Even you know, as a as a new wedding planner, I worked several several weddings with experienced wedding planners before I felt comfortable to take a wedding on my own. I also did a ton of education got my certification. People think that it's so easy as just, you know, making a timeline or putting together a centerpiece or baking a cake. But the thing that I found is while people are very, they have such good intentions and they want to help people just don't know what they don't know.

Kristina Stubblefield  3:25  
That's very true. And when do you find that out the day of the event,

Sharon Rumsey  3:31  
it's not time to find it out on the day of the event, I have so many stories that I could share of you know, sweet family members that we're trying to help. But in the end, it cause much more stress for the bride. Usually it causes a lot more stress for the mother of the bride. And it definitely causes more stress and more work for the wedding planner.

Kristina Stubblefield  3:51  
Well in Mike, one of the things that I would mention here is when you're dealing with wedding professionals, you usually have a contract, or you should have a contract with each of those.

Michael Gaddie  4:01  
Definitely. And you know, like I said earlier, I mean, if a friend is doing something, and they're doing it as a favor, and Oh, honey, I'll help you do this, whatever. I mean, the thing about it is you want it to be what you want it to be and

Kristina Stubblefield  4:18  
you need my friend can't make the decision.

Michael Gaddie  4:21  
Am let me say this. I mean if you have your friend make your flowers, and she makes the decision on everything and yes, you're gonna save money. Well, I mean, usually 99% of the time in this business with flowers, not just flowers, DJ cake people like Sharon said, I have you don't know how many times I have went to a reception. And they run up to me and say, is there any way you can put flowers on this cake because ain't Betty made it and it's fallen on one side and I've got to make it level out on this side and so on. I mean, why would you deal with that extra stress? Knowing Yes, you are going to save money. But in the long run, it's not going to screw your day up.

Kristina Stubblefield  5:03  
Well, and what Sharon said is, you don't know what you don't know. And one of these things by doing this podcast is we want to shed light on some of these topics that we're discussing. And to let people know what can happen, or what you want to avoid. While it's good to use wedding professionals, over friends. These wedding professionals do this day in and day out, they're used to working with each other and sharing I know you come across that a long time because a lot of times, because when you work together, you're you know how each other work. You know how you tick, you can chime in anytime sharing on this topic, I'll

Sharon Rumsey  5:40  
let you take over Sure. When I'm putting together when I hire on as a wedding planner for a new client, the first thing they're going to ask me is what vendors I recommend. And I know the best of the best in the wedding business here locally. So I want to put together my a team, so that I have the absolute best chance in the world of that wedding going off flawlessly. And so when something happens, because it will there'll be some kind of glitch, no day is perfect. But I know that I've got professionals behind me, that will help me correct whatever problem we come across, and then we'll make it a great day for the bride. And she will never know that problem happened. Just like in the case where Mike just described a wedding cake that's falling over. If a bakery, makes a cake, and I go in for my walkthrough and that cake is falling, I can call the bakery. bakeries always have backup cakes. I can say I want a new cake here, you've got 20 minutes, and they're going to take care of that they're going to come they're going to bring a new cake.

Kristina Stubblefield  6:45  
And a lot of times you're not calling the number that was in the phone book or on Google

Sharon Rumsey  6:50  
for I want a cell phone number of the person that's going to bring the cake

Kristina Stubblefield  6:54  
or sometimes the flowers or

Sharon Rumsey  6:56  
it could be after hours, sure. But if Aunt Betty made that cake, I have no recourse. I have no one to call, there is no backup cake. also say that the cake does fall or something goes wrong. I don't have a contract, I don't have a professional contract that gives that that couple any recourse to get any money back or get any, you know, remedy to that problem at all.

Kristina Stubblefield  7:24  
Because you don't it's not like oh, well we can fix this for next weekend. It's this event happening right now. And one of the things you bring up when we're talking about this F word and you're a team, a lot of venues, no matter where you're listening from a lot of venues require professional wedding people, professional wedding vendors, because it also reflects bad on them. If you walk into reception and a cakes fallen over. You know, all of that whole day is a reflection of those places you're having well,

Sharon Rumsey  7:58  
and venues also don't want the liability of food that's prepared by an unlicensed person and a non commercial kitchen. Because if you can't sue the person who made the food because you got sick, you're going to see that venue. So a lot of venues actually have in their contract that all of the wedding vendors brought in have to be licensed and insured, especially your caterer, your DJ, your florist, anyone that has food, anything being consumed, are anyone that has equipment that could cause harm to someone. So it's it's a lot bigger deal than people know. And when I have a bride that says, hey, you know, my fiance's mother is a great Baker and she wants to make our cake and my aunt loves to go to Hobby Lobby and make flowers. You know, I say that's a great and you know, thank goodness that they cared enough to offer. But those people are not you they love you enough to offer and you want them to still love you in the days over?

Kristina Stubblefield  9:01  
Well, and Mike, that brings us to what you talked about, about they may not be your friends after the day, but if they're your good friends or a family member, you probably want them to be able to participate in

Michael Gaddie  9:15  
participate and enjoy the day with you. Even if it's a grandma or aunt or uncle or whatever, if they're doing it I think you know you want them to be able to enjoy the day just as much as everybody else. But going back to your a team I work with Sharon quite a bit. And the one good thing and she mentioned this briefly is you know when you have your a team there, and if something does go wrong, like she said something's usually is going to go wrong. But if you've got your a team, they're not your mom and your grandma or whoever else because they're going to say oh, well, it's not what am I gonna do about it? I'm not gonna run home and fix it. You know, if you got your 18 you're going to be able to stick together work together. We work together all the time. So we kind of jump in help one another. So I think that's real and real really important to to keep that in mind when you're hiring professionals, and not a friend that I can't express that enough.

Sharon Rumsey  10:12  
Well, the other thing that I see all the time, too is people don't understand the timeline of a wedding day. You know, I've gotten calls from brides the week of their wedding. They say we had a family friend that was going to be our planner. But she's having trouble putting the timeline together, how much can we pay you just to make our timeline and come and run our wedding for that day? And as much as I love to sign a new client? The answer is you don't have enough money for me to come in and start, you know, the week of a wedding and you're basically picking up pieces. Yeah, I can't do it. And I don't want my name on that event. So I think that people don't understand what goes into planning a timeline of a wedding day, there's so much more to it than just when is the bride going to walk and when are we going to cut the cake. There's coordinating vendor deliveries, there's what door vendors are going to come in. All of those things have to be timed. It's kind of like the ring masker master in a circus, you kind of have to watch all three of your rings at the same time and know what's going on. And your Don't

Kristina Stubblefield  11:15  
forget about the changes that are going to happen that day. makeup or hair has ran over. There can be adjustments to that to be ready to

Sharon Rumsey  11:23  
punt at all times. And the other thing you know, you mentioned makeup and hair, the mother of the groom and the mother of the bride, as well as the bridesmaids. They want to be with that bride they want to be enjoying, you know that party atmosphere where everybody's getting their hair and makeup done and we've got some music on and we're having a great time. And if someone's running in going Hey, the caterer Rob brought pork and he was supposed to bring roast beef. What do you want me to do? Are the the floral, you know and Betty drop the floral centerpieces and now we don't have any centerpieces for four of our tables. What do you want me to do? Those are the kind of things that a bride and her family and her friends should not have to deal with. On wedding day. You know, I've, I've crawled under a restroom trailer and tried to unplug a drain, I've, you know, dealt with

Michael Gaddie  12:13  
that. That was nasty. It was nasty. And

Kristina Stubblefield  12:16  
I'm gonna say we're probably not gonna have any pictures of that on our social media now.

Sharon Rumsey  12:20  
But there there are things people just don't think of. I've you know, I've had a bride that was supposed to get married outside and 10 minutes before her wedding, a storm nobody saw coming comes. So you have to you have to have someone in charge of that wedding, and have a good team of professionals there. And when you get a good team of wedding professionals, everybody's team bride, we don't care what we have to do. We're going to make that wedding happen. And hopefully the bride is never going to know that there was a problem. Well,

Kristina Stubblefield  12:49  
let me say just one thing, Sharon, what you're bringing up is the word. I feel like of the year

Sharon Rumsey  12:54  
pivot. The P word

Kristina Stubblefield  12:57  
pivot, that's for another episode, we're sticking to the F word. And they might go ahead you were gonna say something?

Michael Gaddie  13:03  
Well, what I was gonna say as as many weddings as we have done. I mean, every wedding that we've done in there have not had a professional coordinator plan or whatever. It's always I hate to say it, it's a disaster. Bring it bring it in another word, D word D word. But I tell you what I mean, because sometimes brides and their moms thinks, oh, we can do this. All you have to do is we've got this scheduled to come this scheduled accommodates is going to happen. You trust me, you have to have someone tell you almost when to go to the bathroom. Because it's so crammed, packed worth of activity after activity after activity, that you the parents, or the other bride has no clue when to do what so

Kristina Stubblefield  13:51  
can I know Sharon mentioned this, but we've all been around weddings for umpteen years. And it's not what's going to happen. There's going to be something that happened we're dealing with humans in this, there's going to be traffic, there could be accidents, you know, all of these different things can weather can play a role. And it's about being able to be that professional no matter what caterer, DJ band, any of that stuff to be able to pivot in transition, to make it through that event to provide the best service for your clients. The couple, you know, that's what's really important. And Mike, one of the things that you had mentioned earlier, I believe, maybe we did before we started recording was the pickup. If you're not using professionals and you're using the F word. I know you all both want to talk about this topic and it's a good one. So go for it. Well,

Michael Gaddie  14:53  
for example, I mean pickups are real important because I mean when it's over and if you've got basement Your your aunt or whoever there to help clean up.

Kristina Stubblefield  15:03  
Did you just say basic Betty?

Sharon Rumsey  15:06  
I was at least nice enough to say Aunt Betty.

Kristina Stubblefield  15:08  
Right? Well, he's pulling out. It is what it is.

Michael Gaddie  15:11  
Okay, it is what it is. basement, Betty when it comes to cleanup time. Guess what? They're gone. So what by hiring a professional. I mean, when it's time to clean up and I know Sharon's gonna give us a little tip here on what what to do and what to have there. No,

Kristina Stubblefield  15:25  
she's not because that we're saving that.

Michael Gaddie  15:29  
But I tell you what I mean, we're always there to help clean up and pick up our product.

Kristina Stubblefield  15:34  
We'll tell them a little bit what you're talking about. You could be talking about glass centerpieces, vases,

Michael Gaddie  15:39  
containers, candles, tablecloths, chairs, all that equipment has to be picked up and removed if those if the venue does not supply it themselves.

Kristina Stubblefield  15:48  
And you're talking about some glass things that need to be boxed and packaged. Because it's, if they've rented it from you, they got to return it unless you if most companies out there, you've got to be able to return it. Well, you can't return well, together. Let's

Michael Gaddie  16:00  
talk about that. Because

Kristina Stubblefield  16:02  
Okay, let's talk about it. Okay. All right. You've got the floor. I mean,

Michael Gaddie  16:05  
I tell you what, though, I'll have brides come to me and say, I want you to do the flowers. But I've got 20 sets of glass cylinders that I want you to put floating candles in. Okay. Now, how many of those sets do you have? Well, I don't have any right now. But I'm going to go by some. Trust me, I have heard this a million plus times,

Kristina Stubblefield  16:27  
Sharon, I think he's being very serious. If only we had a picture to share on social media, he's got his pin out. And he's

Michael Gaddie  16:35  
serious, serious. I mean, these girls will say I'll have this

Kristina Stubblefield  16:39  
misconception though they think they can say

Michael Gaddie  16:41  
they can save money. So they run to five or six different department stores credit, matching one, and they've got to find matching one. So they spent two weeks, three weekends running to A, B and C trying to find everything that matches

Unknown Speaker  16:57  
with their mothers or whoever, yes, the

Michael Gaddie  16:59  
gas they've wasted the time in their life that they can be doing something else,

Kristina Stubblefield  17:06  
you could be enjoying your engagement or doing other things.

Michael Gaddie  17:09  
So I highly recommend just hiring a professional now, you know, we want to work within everybody's budget. And sometimes it's not in their budget. But always ask because I mean, the money that they spent on going from here to here to here, they could have paid me one price or that florist one price or the event decorator one price and not have to worry about that.

Kristina Stubblefield  17:28  
Well. And Sharon, one of the things he's talking about is after they've done all this now after the event, what are they going to do, they're going to turn to an online marketplace or yard sale, they're going to have to turn around and try to sell it or it's gonna sit in their basement, maybe Betty will be down there. And until they usually don't

Michael Gaddie  17:48  
really use it for sale.

Kristina Stubblefield  17:50  
But you know, there's more time energy wasted on something they could have just rented

Sharon Rumsey  17:56  
what my experience has been, when we're talking about decor and floral, most of the time to his brides gets scared before we have the conversation with the floors, they get scared of how much it's gonna cost. So they start looking at everything they can do themselves in order to save that money. And they're usually shocked when they hear that what they're going to go out and pay for that cylinder vase. a florist is probably going to rent it to them cheaper because that florist is going to buy that bass and be able to rent it weekend after weekend after weekend. So usually they're really shocked if I can get them to the florist and we have the conversation. They're usually shocked at how reasonable things are. And the other thing from a planning standpoint, when you have someone else to your decor, or even let's talk about, you know, leftover food at the end of an event or leftover alcohol at the end of an event. Family members again, well intention, but they always say we're going to be there, we're going to stay in help. You don't have to hire anyone for that. We'll clean up. Well you get them there. You feed them a great meal. They have a few drinks, let's face it, they have a lot of drinks. And then all of a sudden it's midnight and said you hear how she said that. A lot of drinks like so it's it's midnight in my

Michael Gaddie  19:13  
house tonight.

Sharon Rumsey  19:15  
My Bride syndrome that's

Kristina Stubblefield  19:16  
after Mike remember that's after the podcast sharing you're making a very valid point here. Go

Sharon Rumsey  19:22  

Kristina Stubblefield  19:22  
You're trying so it's it's midnight. They've had a lot of drinks midnight,

Sharon Rumsey  19:26  
Cinderella's gone off to the hotel, and I'm looking for Aunt Betty who's now back in the basement because she's tired and sleepy and she's gone home and there's no one there and I've got all these usually silk flowers. I've got all these little dilly dally set around things on the tables. You've got food

Kristina Stubblefield  19:47  
you've got Kay

Sharon Rumsey  19:48  
got food I Lowery I'm looking around, there's somebody shoes, there's somebody suit jacket. Somebody had a good time and here I am like the loaders everywhere. Yeah. The Lone Ranger in the middle of the venue all alone, and I'm trying to load up all this stuff, or I'm out in the parking lot going hold on kajaani Can we get this barbecue in your truck and, you know, wait, Freddy, I've got leftover beer here, I'm

Kristina Stubblefield  20:13  
gonna need some place to put a song about the circus earlier. She's wrangling all kinds of

Sharon Rumsey  20:17  
so it's just so much more trouble than it's worth. And you know, even if your family does stay, and they do try, it's so much more stress for them. And they're not they're not a guest at your wedding, they're working.

Kristina Stubblefield  20:34  
It's a lot of work. That's what it comes down to. And people just don't realize what all goes into it. And we go back to what you said, you don't know what you don't know. And I hope by us covering some of these topics, I mentioned it before, we can just shed a little light on somebody be like have never thought about the end of the night. I'm so worried about my wedding ceremony and what they're going to wear and what the guys suits in all this and you've not even made it to at the end of the event. Right?

Sharon Rumsey  21:04  
There's so many things people don't think of I did a wedding not that long ago, where the bride felt very strongly that they did not want to pay a cater. And I tried to work with everyone's budget I you know, my fees, the same doesn't matter. I try to work with everyone's budget, but they ordered in chicken. And then they had all the sides dishes brought in by family members. So I go in the kitchen. And there there is crock pot after crock pot after crock pot.

Michael Gaddie  21:35  
Oh my lord, well,

Kristina Stubblefield  21:37  
you could have been having a whole electrical issue with

Sharon Rumsey  21:40  
that did happen. So we blew a breaker. So now there's me who still can't even figure out how to put our microphone together, trying to figure out how to fix this breaker box so that we have hot food for this wedding. So wedding planners are now Jack's of all trades. We are jack of all trades, but we are masters of none. So Wow, good point, Sherry No, and, and we were in a venue that didn't have a venue coordinator. So I didn't have anybody on site to help me. And we did eventually with the help of her dad, figure out the problem. But you know, once again, a cater would have known how much power their equipment pool, they would have known where to plug in. So it's just again, all these things that that you don't think about unless this is what you do.

Kristina Stubblefield  22:24  
Mike, a good point here is, thank goodness, it was just blown a breaker because that's why venues require people to carry insurance policies,

Michael Gaddie  22:34  
correct. I mean, and that could have turned that could have been a disaster actually to, you know, when you go to a venue, and that's why you're seeing more and more have a vendor list. Right. And, I mean, I'm seeing that most, almost every venue we work with now. And it's because of things like that. So I mean, don't be one of those people that

Kristina Stubblefield  23:03  
well, and this will bring up another topic, you know, we're sticking to the F word. But Mike, you know, there's been a lot with this year and everything that has gone on. And a friend or could not have helped you as much as professionals with rescheduling your event. But what came to my mind was, if my wedding was eventually what was first of all in the summer, and then I had to reschedule it, because of COVID. And now it's in the dead of winter. My florals that I was planning

Michael Gaddie  23:47  
is gonna be totally different.

Kristina Stubblefield  23:49  
But if it was a friend or who was doing silk flowers or something they could already be

Michael Gaddie  23:55  
made, that's done and there's nothing but daffodils and tulips. She's

Sharon Rumsey  23:58  
probably also hundreds and hundreds of dollars in two spring flowers that she's purchased. Were at a florist, you wouldn't have that problem. That's a good point. And I'm

Kristina Stubblefield  24:08  
sure you've had several meetings, so we don't have to dive deep into that. But a friend or it goes beyond we could have never predicted what has gone on this year. Everyone's been pivoting. But that's what came to my mind is some they would have had a lot done a couple months ago.

Michael Gaddie  24:26  
Yeah. And I mean, I mean, that's a big problem. But when it comes to us, I mean when it comes to postponing things, and hopefully we'll be over this soon. But I mean, only thing we did was just mark out the date, change the date, and then we met. I mean, we've had a lot of people that got married, we're supposed to be getting married the weekend of Easter, and now they're getting married two weeks before Christmas. So I mean, but really we make try to make that as smooth as possible for our transition between the seasons but Like you said, If Aunt Betty, or bass and Betty bought all the flowers already, and she's already made them, you've got all these things sitting there that came in us, unless you've postponed to the same time of the year. Well, and

Kristina Stubblefield  25:15  
the other thing is people might not be thinking they just knew I'm getting married this summer. This is kind of flowers I want, may not even know what kind of flowers to consider, you know, in a winter.

Michael Gaddie  25:25  
Well, and one thing too, that's going on now is a lot of people will do their flowers or self and they'll order them online and, and they'll go to big chain stores and order them. What I always tell my brides there too is, you know, these big chain stores does not care about what if you're getting married or not. For example, a couple years ago, I had a bride order flowers from me, but I'm doing my centerpieces myself. And I've got these from store a. And that week, she calls me and she says Mike, she goes they came in but they were you know, they were white, and they were probably blue. Well guess who she called at the last minute to get blue hydrangeas,

Kristina Stubblefield  26:05  
white instead of blue? That? Yeah, that's as far stretch. And the thing

Michael Gaddie  26:08  
about it is when you deal with the professional florist in this case, I mean, we're going to order those flowers along with your other wedding flowers, and we're going to make sure they're processed and everything right away. When they you get them from a chain store online, they come off the UPS plane and shipped someplace and they don't even open them. They're there waiting for you. Why? Why put yourself in that much more stress if

Unknown Speaker  26:32  
you're on a time crunch?

Michael Gaddie  26:34  
Yeah, I mean, it just,

Sharon Rumsey  26:36  
I'm sorry, go ahead. The other thing when we're talking about you got her started, Mike, she just couldn't wait. Anyone all has gone on this year with COVID. For brides that were trying to do everything themselves, oh, my God, what these girls went through, because they're already dealing with the emotional trauma of having to reschedule their wedding, postpone, cancel whatever they ended up having to do. But if they don't have a professional team, they're doing all of that themselves. And you can be talking about several several phone calls, emails, texts, they're reaching out, you know, to venues, trying to find a new day, they're talking to the floors trying to change their flowers there, you know,

Michael Gaddie  27:18  
and, you know, you got brides out there right now and dealing with this stuff daily. And I mean, I don't wish that on any of our Brides, yours or mine.

Kristina Stubblefield  27:28  
We don't wish that on anybody out there. Listening, it's

Michael Gaddie  27:31  
and that's stressful. And we want to, you know, in using a professional, it's going to help you get through those days better. weddings

Sharon Rumsey  27:37  
are such an emotional, relational business. And, you know, back in the spring, I've shared with Mike I went through about two weeks, where I was really struggling with depression, because every time I answered my phone, the person on the other end had their heart broke. And that's not what I'm used to, I'm used to happy and I'm used to My Brides, you know, having a problem and I solved it. And there we go. So just being able to say look, love on each other, we're gonna get through this, I will take care of everything. It was all that I could do. But it was it was something they could deal with their feelings while I dealt with the business of their wedding.

Kristina Stubblefield  28:19  
I talked to you a few times. And there were many tears, shes hard it was on on all of those hard it is and we thought we were going in a forward direction. Now we seem to be going in a backward direction. And sure, and I think that you've brought up a good way for us to end this episode. It's our very first episode. And I want us to be a be, I want us to be upbeat about that. We've got a lot of laughs and things on the way. But I think one thing that we can share with you all is yes, it's been a year of pivoting. Every person out there has been affected in some way, shape or form. And I think that, uh, speaking on behalf of Sharon and Mike, that we would just remind you that tomorrow will come no matter what you may be struggling with, or what you may be faced with a wedding or something else, that there are people out there that care about you and want to help you see you down the aisle eventually. I know that's been hard on a lot of people. So looking forward to just getting married. I know Sharon, you've mentioned that people say to me, just I just want to marry my best friend. I just want to get married. So I think that's one thing that we'd like to share is we're hoping to form a little bit of a community where we can encourage each other where we can chat back and forth, and all of that things but at the end of the day, we will all get through this together. And you never know what that person next to you might be going through. And so as Sharon said, take a minute and just be nice because There's a saying out there, and I'm sure I'll botch it all the way up, but you never know what another person could be facing. So we're going to change this up for this closing, we would love for you to connect with us on social media. If you're already married, or you know a story of a wedding, you went to about the F word. And for that we're talking about fenders, we would love to hear from you, you can tag us on social media, you'll find all of our contact information below in the show notes. You share us your pictures, you never know, we might read some of those stories, right here on one of our upcoming episodes. So Mike and Sharon, I'm gonna let you do the honors. Thank you, everyone out there for number one subscribing. If you liked what you've heard, take a minute and write a review. We'd like to get the word out. So we can help others planning their big day, your family, your friends, your wedding party, any of that, take a minute and write a review and share it with others. So we greatly appreciate it sharing Mike, whoever wants to go, I just

Michael Gaddie  31:08  
want to say thanks for joining us. And just keep in mind, if you are planning your special day, hopefully we can make it a little smoother for you. And at the end of the day, no matter what happens or what goes on, you're still gonna get married.

Sharon Rumsey  31:25  
So I don't want to be a three peat. But again, thank you guys so much for joining us on our first episode of the ring, the bling and all the things. We appreciate your support, we'd love a nice five star review. Please feel free to connect with us ask us a question. Follow us all on social media. We appreciate all the support and back to hiring professional wedding vendors. hire that person that you know no matter what happens is in your corner, they've got your back, they're gonna be there for you. And they know what they're doing because it's what they do for a living. So that being said, details change. Love doesn't and we'll see you guys next time.

Kristina Stubblefield  32:06  
And we want to say one last thing basement that he did not mean.

Sharon Rumsey  32:12  
This hate mail Betty she does

Kristina Stubblefield  32:13  
she was not harmed in the recording of this episode. But in all seriousness, take care and until next time, stay safe.

Thank you for tuning in to this episode of the ring, doubling and all the things. If you like what you heard, make sure to hit the subscribe button to get notified of upcoming episodes. You can also visit our website, the ring, the bling and all the things calm for past episodes, and make sure to connect with us on social media. If you would like to help us get the word out about this podcast, make sure to share with your family, your friends and anyone you know in the wedding business.

Transcribed by