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Feb. 2, 2022

The "F" Word & The "A" Team REBOOT

The "F" Word & The "A" Team REBOOT

What do we mean by “F” word and “A” team? Should you use Friendors (the “F” word) when planning possibly one of the biggest days of your life? A Friendor is a friend or a family member that you ask (or hire) to take the place of a wedding professional to participate in the planning or execution of events for your wedding. When it comes to weddings, THERE ARE NO DO-OVERS! 

By the end of the episode, we know you will understand that just because you're hiring your friend or family does not mean you will save money! You will discover by listening that a great wedding planner will bring an “A” wedding team of expert vendors to get you down the aisle and to the altar with all your friendships and family relationships intact.

Timestamps:
• [1:56] Sharon says: “Well, in my world, I would much rather hear the traditional F word than to hear the wedding F word which is friendor.”
• [05:06] Mike explains how there is no recourse when Aunt Betty’s cake has collapsed on one side…
• [11:53] Sharon makes her point that the bride should not be dealing with stressful decisions on her wedding day…
• [14:31] Kristina talks about professionals having the experience and resources to pivot and transition when things don’t go according to plan…

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Transcript

Michael Gaddie  0:00  
Didn't your mama ever teach you not to use the F word? We all know it's wrong. Find out why that applies. 1,000% When we're talking about planning a wedding,

Sharon Rumsey  0:10  
You're going to understand that friendships and family relationships are much more important than saving money.

Kristina Stubblefield  0:15  
And when it comes to weddings, there are no do overs! Stay tuned as we dive into the F word and the A team. 

You're listening to The Ring The Bling And All The Things Podcast. I'm Kristina Stubblefield, one of your hosts, along with my two good friends Michael Gaddie and  Sharon Rumsey. We are here to get you from down on one knee down the aisle into happily ever after. Our informative episodes deliver valuable tips, trends, ideas, and advice covering everything from you saying yes to the i do's and all that happens in between and after. Now, let's get started with this episode.

Sharon Rumsey  1:04  
Yeah, we had to bring this episode back. It's my all time favorite episode we've ever done. It resonated so much with so many couples that we thought it was worth a repeat. We absolutely know that this is the best information.

Kristina Stubblefield  1:20  
It was one of the funnest episodes that I remember recording. I'm not sure how long it took us. I'm not sure if we laughed until we cried. If there was alcohol involved. I'm not really sure. But it was a blast recording this and to hear from our audience how much they enjoyed it. Maybe it was even the title Mike, the F word. And the A team.

Michael Gaddie  1:43  
Yes, so buckle up. And let's get on this show. 

Kristina Stubblefield  1:46  
Mike made a really good point when we talk about the F word. But I'm gonna let Sharon tell our audience. Sharon, what exactly are we talking about?

Sharon Rumsey  1:55  
Well, in my world, I would much rather hear the traditional F word than to hear the wedding F word which is friendor.

Kristina Stubblefield  2:03  
Oh, give it to a Sharon.

Sharon Rumsey  2:06  
So a friendor is defined as when you hire a or not hire when you solicit a family member or friend to take the place of a wedding professional to participate in your wedding.

Kristina Stubblefield  2:22  
And Mike, you got to chime you in here because you made a really good point about this. You want to share with them?

Michael Gaddie  2:28  
Well, just because you're hiring your friend to do something and you think you're going to save money. Really you don't. I mean, usually you lose a friend over it.

Kristina Stubblefield  2:40  
And that's a really valid point. And Sharon, what I like to talk about when this topic came up is what we were going to discuss with our audience and be our first episode was there's something really important. There's no do overs with your wedding. That's it. There's no do overs.

Sharon Rumsey  2:59  
Yeah, it's definitely not a day that you want to gamble. It's definitely not a day for someone who's doing something for the very first time. Even you know, as a as a new wedding planner, I worked several several weddings with experienced wedding planners before I felt comfortable to take a wedding on my own. I also did a ton of education got my certification. People think that it's so easy as just, you know, making a timeline or putting together a centerpiece or baking a cake. But the thing that I found is while people are very, they have such good intentions and they want to help people just don't know what they don't know.

Kristina Stubblefield  3:45  
That's very true. And when do you find that out the day of the event, it's not

Sharon Rumsey  3:51  
time to find it out on the day of the event, I have so many stories that I could share of you know, sweet family members that were trying to help. But in the end, it caused much more stress for the bride. Usually it causes a lot more stress for the mother of the bride. And it definitely causes more stress and more work for the wedding planner.

Kristina Stubblefield  4:10  
Well in Mike one of the things that I would mention here is when you're dealing with wedding professionals, you usually have a contract, or you should have a contract with each of those.

Michael Gaddie  4:20  
Definitely. And you know, like I said earlier, I mean, if a friend is doing something, and they're doing it as a favor, and Oh honey, I'll help you do this, whatever. I mean, the thing about it is you want it to be what you want it to be and you need

Kristina Stubblefield  4:37  
my friend can't make the decision.

Michael Gaddie  4:40  
And let me say this I mean if you have your friend make your flowers, and she makes the decision on everything and yes, you're gonna save money. Well, I mean, usually 99% of the time in this business with flowers, not just flowers, DJ cake people like Sharon said, I have you don't know How many times I have went to a reception? And they run up to me and say, Is there any way you can put flowers on this cake? Because Aunt Betty made it and it's fallen on one side, and I've got to make it level out on this side and so on. I mean, why would you deal with that extra stress? Knowing Yes, you are going to save money, but in the long run, it's not going to screw your day

Kristina Stubblefield  5:22  
up. Well, and what Sharon said is, you don't know what you don't know. And one of these things by doing this podcast is we want to shed light on some of these topics that we're discussing, and to let people know what can happen, or what you want to avoid. While it's good to use wedding professionals, over friends. These wedding professionals do this day in and day out, they're used to working with each other and sharing I know you come across that a long time because a lot of times, because when you work together, you're you know how each other work. You know how you take you can chime in anytime sharing on this topic, I'll let you take over

Sharon Rumsey  6:00  
Sure. When I'm putting together. When I hire on as a wedding planner for a new client, the first thing they're going to ask me is what vendors I recommend. And I know the best of the best in the wedding business here locally. So I want to put together my a team, so that I have the absolute best chance in the world of that wedding going off flawlessly. And so when something happens, because it will there will be some kind of glitch, no day is perfect. But I know that I've got professionals behind me, that will help me correct whatever problem we come across. And that will make it a great day for the bride and she will never know that problem happened. Just like in the case where Mike just described a wedding cake that's falling over. If a bakery, makes a cake, and I go in for my walkthrough and that cake is falling, I can call the bakery. Bakeries always have backup cakes, I can say I want a new cake here, you've got 20 minutes, and they're gonna take care of that they're gonna come they're gonna bring a new cake.

Kristina Stubblefield  7:04  
And a lot of times, you're not calling the number that was in the phone book or on Google

Sharon Rumsey  7:09  
for a cell phone number of the person that's going to bring the cake or sometimes

Kristina Stubblefield  7:14  
the flowers or it could be after hours, sure.

Sharon Rumsey  7:18  
But if Aunt Betty made that cake, I have no recourse. I have no one to call, there is no backup cake. also say that the cake does fall or something goes wrong. I don't have a contract, I don't have a professional contract that gives that that couple any recourse to get any money back or get any, you know, remedy to that problem at all.

Kristina Stubblefield  7:44  
Because you don't it's not like oh, well we can fix this for next weekend. It's this event happening right now. And one of the things you bring up when we're talking about this F word and you're a team, a lot of venues, no matter where you're listening from a lot of venues require professional wedding people, professional wedding vendors, because it also reflects bad on them. If you walk into reception and a cake has fallen over. You know, all of that whole day is a reflection of those places you're having well,

Sharon Rumsey  8:18  
and venues also don't want the liability of food that's prepared by an unlicensed person in a non commercial kitchen. Because if you can't sue the person who made the food because you got sick, you're going to sue that venue. So a lot of venues actually have in their contract that all of the wedding vendors brought in have to be licensed and insured, especially your caterer, your DJ, your florist, anyone that has food, anything being consumed, are anyone that has equipment that could cause harm to someone. So it's it's a lot bigger deal than people know. And when I have a bride that says, hey, you know, my fiance's mother is a great baker and she wants to make our cake and my aunt loves to go to Hobby Lobby and make flowers. You know, I say that's great. And you know, thank goodness that they cared enough to offer. But those people are not you they love you enough to offer and you want them to still love you in the days over.

Kristina Stubblefield  9:21  
Well and Mike that brings us to what you talked about, about they may not be your friends after the day, but if they're your good friends or a family member, you probably want them to be able to participate in

Michael Gaddie  9:35  
participate and enjoy the day with you. Even if it's a grandma or aunt or uncle whatever if they're doing it I think you know you want them to be able to enjoy the day just as much as everybody else. But going back to your a team. I work with Sharon quite a bit. And the one good thing and she mentioned this briefly is you know when you have your a team there and if somebody does go wrong? Like she said, Something's usually is gonna go wrong. But if you've got your a team, they're not your mom and your grandma or whoever else because they're going to say, Oh, well, it's not what am I going to do about it, I'm not gonna run home and fix it. You know, if you got your 18, you're going to be able to stick together work together, we work together all the time. So we kind of jump in and help one another. So I think that's real unreal, really important to keep that in mind when you're hiring professionals, and not a friend that I can't express that enough.

Sharon Rumsey  10:31  
Well, the other thing that I see all the time, too, is people don't understand the timeline of a wedding day. You know, I've gotten calls from brides the week of their wedding, that say, we had a family friend that was going to be our planner, but she's having trouble putting the timeline together, how much can we pay you just to make our timeline and come and run our wedding for that day? And as much as I love to sign a new client? The answer is you don't have enough money for me to come in and start, you know, the week of a wedding. And you're basically picking up pieces. Yeah, I can't do it. And I don't want my name on that event. So I think that people don't understand what goes into planning a timeline of a wedding day. There's so much more to it than just when is the bride going to walk and when are we going to cut the cake. There's coordinating vendor deliveries, there's what door vendors are going to come in. All of those things have to be timed. It's kind of like the ring masker master in a circus you kind of have to watch all three of your rings at the same time and know what's going on. And you're don't

Kristina Stubblefield  11:35  
forget about the changes that are gonna happen that day makeup or hair is ran over. There can be adjustments to that

Sharon Rumsey  11:42  
time ready to punt it all times. And the other thing you know, you mentioned makeup and hair, the mother of the groom and the mother of the bride as well as the the bridesmaids. They want to be with that bride they want to be enjoying, you know that party atmosphere where everybody's getting their hair and makeup done and we've got some music on and we're having a great time. And if someone's running in going hey, the caterer brought pork and he was supposed to bring roast beef. What do you want me to do? Are the the floral? You know Aunt Betty dropped the floral centerpieces and now we don't have any centerpieces for four of our tables. What do you want me to do? Those are the kind of things that a bride and her family and her friends should not have to deal with. On wedding day. You know, I've, I've crawled under a restroom trailer and tried to unplug a drain I've, you know, dealt with

Michael Gaddie  12:33  
birth. That was nasty. It was nasty.

Kristina Stubblefield  12:35  
And I'm gonna say we're probably not gonna have any pictures of that on our social media now,

Sharon Rumsey  12:39  
but there are things people just don't think of. I've you know, I've had a bride that was supposed to get married outside and 10 minutes before her wedding, a storm nobody saw coming comes. So you have to you have to have someone in charge of that wedding, and have a good team of professionals there. And when you get a good team of wedding professionals, everybody's team bride, we don't care what we have to do. We're going to make that wedding happen. And hopefully the bride is never going to know that there was a problem.

Kristina Stubblefield  13:08  
Let me say just one thing, Sharon, what you're bringing up is the word. I feel like of the year pivot. The P word pivot. That's for another episode, we're sticking to the F word. And they at Mike Go ahead. You were gonna say something?

Michael Gaddie  13:22  
Well, what I was gonna say as as many weddings as we have done. I mean, every wedding that we've done in there have not had a professional coordinator plan or whatever. It's always I hate to say it, it's a disaster. Bring it bring it in another word D word D word. But I tell you what I mean, because sometimes brides and their moms thinks, oh, we can do this. Oh, you have to do is we've got this schedule to calm this schedule to calm and it's it's going to happen. You trust me, you have to have someone tell you almost when to go to the bathroom. Because it's so crammed packed worth of activity after activity after activity, that you the parents or the other bride has no clue when to do what so

Kristina Stubblefield  14:10  
can I know Sharon mentioned this, but we've all been around weddings for umpteen years. And it's not what's gonna happen. There's gonna be something that happened. We're dealing with humans in this, there's gonna be traffic, there could be accidents, you know, all of these different things can weather can play a row. And it's about being able to be that professional, no matter what caterer, DJ band, any of that stuff to be able to pivot in transition, to make it through that event to provide the best service for your clients. The couple, you know, that's what's really important. And Mike, one of the things that you had mentioned earlier, I believe, maybe we did before we started recording was the pickup. If you're not using professionals and you're using the F word, I know you all both want to talk about this topic and it's a good one. So go for

Michael Gaddie  15:13  
it. Well, for example, I mean, pickups are real important because I mean when it's over, and if you've got basement Betty or your aunt or whoever, there to help clean up, did

Kristina Stubblefield  15:23  
you just say basement? Betty?

Sharon Rumsey  15:25  
I was at least nice enough to say Aunt Betty. Right? Well, he's pulling out

Kristina Stubblefield  15:29  
what it is. What it is, but basement.

Michael Gaddie  15:32  
When it comes to cleanup time. Guess what? They're gone. So by hiring a professional, I mean, when it's time to clean up and I know, Sharon's gonna give us a little tip here on what what to do and what to have there. No,

Kristina Stubblefield  15:45  
she's not because that we're saving that for.

Michael Gaddie  15:48  
But I tell you what I mean, we're always there to help clean up and pick up our product.

Kristina Stubblefield  15:53  
We'll tell them a little bit what you're talking about. You could be talking about glass centerpieces, vases,

Michael Gaddie  15:58  
containers, candles, tablecloths, chairs, all that equipment has to be picked up and removed if this if the venue does not supply it themselves.

Kristina Stubblefield  16:08  
And you're talking about some glass things that need to be boxed and packaged. Because it's, if they've rented it from you, they got to return it unless you if most companies out there, you've got to be able to return it. Well, you can't return. Well,

Michael Gaddie  16:19  
let's talk about that. Because Okay, let's talk about it. Okay. All right.

Kristina Stubblefield  16:23  
You've got the floor. I mean,

Michael Gaddie  16:24  
I tell you what, though, I'll have brides come to me and say, I want you to do the flowers. But I've got 20 sets of glass cylinders that I want you to put floating candles in. Okay. Now, how many of those sets do you have? Well, I don't have any right now. But I'm going to go by some. Trust me, I have heard this a million plus time share. And

Kristina Stubblefield  16:47  
I think he's being very serious. If only we had a picture to share on social media, he's got his pin out. And he's

Michael Gaddie  16:54  
serious. I mean, these girls will say all have this

Kristina Stubblefield  16:58  
misconception, though, they think they can say they can

Michael Gaddie  17:01  
save money. So they run to five or six different department stores. Matching one, and they've got to find matching one. So they spent two weeks, three weekends running to a, b and c trying to find everything that matches

Kristina Stubblefield  17:17  
with their mothers or whoever yet the gas they've wasted

Michael Gaddie  17:22  
the time in their life that they can be doing something else you

Kristina Stubblefield  17:25  
could be enjoying your engagement or doing other things. So I

Michael Gaddie  17:29  
highly recommend just hiring a professional now, you know, we want to work within everybody's budget. And sometimes it's not in their budget. But always ask because I mean, the money that they spent on going from here to here to here, they could have paid me one price or the florist one price or the decorator one price and not have to worry about that. Well,

Kristina Stubblefield  17:48  
in sharing, one of the things he's talking about is after they've done all this, now after the event, what are they going to do, they're going to turn to an online marketplace or yard sale, they're going to have to turn around and try to sell it or it's gonna sit in their basement, maybe better, you'll be down there. And until they use use it any sale. But you know, there's more time energy wasted on something they could have just rented

Sharon Rumsey  18:15  
what my experience has been, when we're talking about decor and floral, most of the time to his brides get scared, before we have the conversation with the floors, they get scared of how much it's going to cost. So they start looking at everything they can do themselves in order to save that money. And they're usually shocked when they hear that what they're gonna go out and pay for that cylinder vase. A florist is probably going to rent it to them cheaper because that florist is going to buy that bass and be able to rent it weekend after weekend after weekend. So usually they're really shocked if I can get them to the florist and we have the conversation. They're usually shocked at how reasonable things are. And the other thing from a planning standpoint, when you have someone else to your decor, or even let's talk about, you know, leftover food at the end of an event or leftover alcohol at the end of an event. Family members again, well intention, but they always say we're going to be there, we're gonna stay in help. You don't have to hire anyone for that. We'll clean up. Well you get them there. You feed him a great meal. They have a few drinks. Let's face it, they have a lot of drinks. And then all of a sudden

Kristina Stubblefield  19:26  
it's midnight and since you hear how she said that a lot of drinks like so it's it's midnight

Sharon Rumsey  19:31  
and my bright sweater tonight. My Bride

Kristina Stubblefield  19:35  
syndrome it's after Mike remember that's after the podcast sharing you're making a very valid point you're going on. You're trying so it's it's midnight. They've had a lot of drinks midnight,

Sharon Rumsey  19:45  
Cinderella's gone off to the hotel, and I'm looking for Aunt Betty who's now back in the basement because she's tired and sleepy and she's gone home and there's no one there and I've got all these usually so Flowers. I've got all these little dilly dally set around things on the tables. You've got food you've got Kay got food I Lowry. I'm looking around, there's somebody shoes, there's somebody suit jacket,

Kristina Stubblefield  20:14  
somebody had a good time. And here I

Sharon Rumsey  20:16  
am like the loggers everywhere. Yeah, the Lone Ranger in the middle of the venue all alone. And I'm trying to load up all this stuff, or I'm out in the parking lot going hold on Kajaani, can we get this barbecue in your truck, and, you know, wait, Freddy, I've got leftover beer here, I'm going to need some place to put this on

Kristina Stubblefield  20:34  
about the circus earlier. She's wrangling all kinds of so

Sharon Rumsey  20:37  
it's just so much more trouble than it's worth. And you know, even if your family does stay, and they do try, it's so much more stress for them. And they're not they're not a guest at your wedding, they're working.

Kristina Stubblefield  20:53  
It's a lot of work. That's what it comes down to. And people just don't realize what all goes into it. And we go back to what you said, you don't know what you don't know. And I hope by us covering some of these topics, I mentioned it before, we can just shed a little light on somebody be like, Hey, I never thought about the end of the night. I'm so worried about my wedding ceremony and what they're going to wear and what the guys suits in all this and you've not even made it to at the end of the event.

Sharon Rumsey  21:23  
Right? There's so many things people don't think of I did a wedding not that long ago, where the bride felt very strongly that they did not want to pay a cater. And I tried to work with everyone's budget I you know, my fees, the same doesn't matter. I try to work with everyone's budget, but they ordered in chicken. And then they had all the sides dishes brought in by family members. So I go in the kitchen. And there there is crock pot after crock pot after crock pot.

Kristina Stubblefield  21:55  
Oh my lord, well, you could have been having a whole electrical issue with

Sharon Rumsey  21:59  
and that that did happen. So we blew a breaker. So now there's me who still can't even figure out how to put her microphone together, trying to figure out how to fix this breaker box so that we have hot food for this wedding.

Kristina Stubblefield  22:12  
So wedding planners are now Jack's of all trades. We are Jack's

Sharon Rumsey  22:15  
of all trades, but we are masters of none. So Wow, good point sharing no and, and we were in a venue that didn't have a venue coordinator. So I didn't have anybody on site to help me when we did eventually with the help of her dad, figure out the problem. But you know, once again, a cater would have known how much power their equipment pulled, they would have known where to plug in. So it's just again, all these things that that you don't think about unless this is what you do.

Kristina Stubblefield  22:43  
Mike, a good point here is, thank goodness, it was just blowing a breaker because that's why venues require people to carry insurance policies,

Michael Gaddie  22:53  
correct. I mean, and that could have turned that could have been a disaster actually to, you know, when you go to a venue, and that's why you're seeing more and more have a vendor list. Right? And, I mean, I'm seeing that most almost every venue we work with now. And it's because of things like that. So I mean, don't be one of those people that

Kristina Stubblefield  23:23  
well, and this will bring up another topic. You know, we're sticking to the F word. But Mike, you know, there's been a lot with this year and everything that has gone on and a friend or could not have helped you as much as professionals with rescheduling your event. But what came to my mind was, if my wedding was eventually what was first of all in the summer, and then I had to reschedule it, because of COVID. And now it's in the dead of winter. My florals that I was planning is going to be totally different. But if it was a friend or who was doing silk flowers or something, they could already be

Michael Gaddie  24:13  
done a melody may that's done and there's nothing but daffodils and tulips. She's

Sharon Rumsey  24:17  
probably also hundreds and hundreds of dollars in two spring flowers that she's purchased. Were at a florist you wouldn't have that problem.

Kristina Stubblefield  24:26  
That's a good point. And I'm sure you've had several meetings so we don't have to dive deep into that but a friend or it goes beyond we could have never predicted what has gone on this year. Everyone's been pivoting. But that's what came to my mind is some they would have had a mock done a couple months ago.

Michael Gaddie  24:45  
Yeah. And I mean, I mean, that's a big problem. But when it comes to us, I mean when it comes to postponing things, and hopefully we'll be over this soon. But I mean, only thing we did was just mark out The date changed the date. And then we met. I mean, we've had a lot of people that got married, were supposed to get married the weekend of Easter, and now they're getting married two weeks before Christmas. So I mean, but really, we may try to make that as smooth as possible for a transition between the seasons. But like you said, if Aunt Betty, or based on Betty bought all the flowers already, and she's already made them, you've got all these things sitting there that came in us, unless you postponed to the same time of the year.

Kristina Stubblefield  25:34  
Well, and the other thing is, people might not be thing, they just knew I'm getting married in the summer, this is kind of flowers I want may not even know what kind of flowers to consider, you know, in a winter

Michael Gaddie  25:44  
well, and one thing too that's going on now is a lot of people will do their flowers or self and they'll order them online and, and they'll go to big chain stores and order um, what I always tell my brides there too, is, you know, these big chain stores does not care about what if you're getting married or not. For example, a couple years ago, I had a broad order flowers from me, but I'm doing my centerpieces myself. And I've got these from door A. And that week, she calls me and she says Mike, she goes they came in but they were you know, they were white, and they were going to be blue. Well guess who she called at the last minute to get blue hydrangeas,

Kristina Stubblefield  26:24  
white instead of blue? Yeah, that's as far stretch. And the thing about it is

Michael Gaddie  26:28  
when you deal with a professional florist, in this case, I mean, we're going to order those flowers along with your other wedding flowers, and we're going to make sure they're processed and everything right away. When they you get them from a chain store online. They come off the UPS plane and shipped someplace and then don't even open them. They're there waiting for you. Why pictures? Why put yourself in that much more stress

Kristina Stubblefield  26:51  
if you're on a time crunch? Yeah,

Michael Gaddie  26:54  
I mean, it just

Sharon Rumsey  26:55  
I'm sorry, go ahead. Another thing when we're talking about you got her started Mike, she just couldn't wait. Anyone on has gone on this year with COVID. For brides that were trying to do everything themselves, Oh, my God, what these girls went through, because they're already dealing with the emotional trauma of having to reschedule their wedding, postpone, cancel whatever they ended up having to do. But if they don't have a professional team, they're doing all of that themselves. And you

Kristina Stubblefield  27:25  
can be talking about several several phone calls, emails, texts, they're

Sharon Rumsey  27:31  
reaching out, you know, to venues, trying to find a new day they're talking to the floor is trying to change their flowers there, you know.

Michael Gaddie  27:38  
And, you know, you got broads out there right now dealing with this stuff daily. And I mean, I don't wish that on any of our brides, yours or mine.

Kristina Stubblefield  27:47  
We don't wish that on anybody out there. Listening. It's and that's stressful. And

Michael Gaddie  27:51  
we want to, you know, in using a professional, it's going to help you get through those days better. Weddings

Sharon Rumsey  27:57  
are such an emotional, relational business. And, you know, back in the spring, I've shared with Mike I went through about two weeks, where I was really struggling with depression, because every time I answered my phone, the person on the other end had their heart broke. And that's not what I'm used to, I'm used to happy and I'm used to My Brides, you know, having a problem and I solve it. And there we go. So just being able to say look, love on each other. We're going to get through this, I will take care of everything. It was all that I could do. But it was it was something they could deal with their feelings while I dealt with the business of their wedding.

Kristina Stubblefield  28:38  
I talked to you a few times. And there were many tears shed hard. It was on on all of us hard. It is. And we thought we were going in a forward direction. Now we seem to be going in a backward direction. And Sharon, I think that you've brought up a good way for us to end this episode. It's our very first episode. And I want us to be behind. I want us to be upbeat about that. We've got a lot of laughs and things on the way. But I think one thing that we can share with you all is Yes, it's been a year of pivoting. Every person out there has been affected in some way, shape or form. And I think that, uh, speaking on behalf of Sharon and Mike, that we would just remind you that tomorrow will come no matter what you may be struggling with, or what you may be faced with a wedding or something else. That there are people out there that care about you and want to help you see you down the aisle eventually. I know that's been hard on a lot of people. So looking forward to just getting married. I know Sharon, you've mentioned that people say to me, just I just want to marry my best friend. I just want to get married. So I think that's one thing that we'd like to share is we're hoping to form a little bit of a community where we can encourage each other where we can chat back and forth, and all of that things. But at the end of the day, we will all get through this together. And you never know what that person next you might be going through. And so as Sharon said, take a minute. And just be nice, because there's a saying out there, and I'm sure I'll botch it all the way up, but you never know what another person could be facing. So we're going to change this up for this closing, we would love for you to connect with us on social media. If you're already married, or you know a story of a wedding you went to about the F word. And for that we're talking about friendors, we would love to hear from you, you can tag us on social media, you'll find all of our contact information below in the show notes. You share us your pictures, you never know, we might read some of those stories, right here on one of our upcoming episodes. So Mike and Sharon, I'm going to let you do the honors. Thank you, everyone out there for number one subscribing. If you liked what you've heard, take a minute and write a review. We'd like to get the word out. So we can help others planning their big day, your family, your friends, your wedding party, any of that, take a minute and write a review and share it with others. So we greatly appreciate it. Sharon, Mike, whoever wants to go,

Michael Gaddie  31:28  
I just want to say thanks for joining us. And just keep in mind, if you are planning your special day, hopefully we can make a little smoother for you. And at the end of the day, no matter what happens or what goes on, you're still going to get married.

Sharon Rumsey  31:44  
So I don't want to be a three peat. But again, thank you guys so much for joining us on our first episode of The Ring The Bling And All The Things. We appreciate your support, we'd love a nice five star review. Please feel free to connect with us ask us a question. Follow us on social media. We appreciate all the support and back to hiring professional wedding vendors. hire that person that you know no matter what happens is in your corner, they've got your back, they're gonna be there for you. And they know what they're doing because it's what they do for a living. So that being said, details change. Love doesn't and we'll see you guys next time.

Kristina Stubblefield  32:33  
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